How to Keep Your New Year's Resolutions: Advice from the Experts
A Time Magazine Article
"Consciously and unconsciously, people tend to imitate those around them. That's why the latest research shows that things like happiness, quitting smoking and obesity can spread like a contagion through social networks. So, surround yourself with friends who can also be role models. "Make sure that people you hang out with are people who look and act the way you would like to. Social imitation is the easiest form not only of flattery but of self-improvement," says Stanton Peele, author of Seven Tools to Beat Addiction."
Social imitation is conducive to good and bad behavior. We just have to remember what our mothers tried to drill into our thick heads when they did not like our friends or "those people" we were hanging around with.
Now if you really want to break that habit, you have to "quit cold turkey" as they say in this piece. There is no use experimenting with hiatuses of abstinence of whatever kind. Also, the idea of moderation seems very appealing. Mind you, if you are doing crack, please, there is no idea of moderation, as far as I know. Quit immediately.
Now, if you are a pathological liar, a fraud, an empty-vessel, a lost cause, there could be one little thing you could do: Own up to your weaknesses and tell the persons with whom you have some involvement so that they will not find out the hard way and catch you with your pants down. It is by far the best way and they might even thank you for it.